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The New Rules For Love Sex & Dating
The love of your life should bring out the best in you. But only you can prevent forest fires. Only you can prevent your impatience, unkindness, pride, anger, and record keeping from undermining your relationship. Patience is an expression of submission. He commanded them to do some things. If you want to know how someone will behave tomorrow, take a look at what he or she did yesterday. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. A few days before I started reading this book, one of my oldest girlfriends and I were talking about how our parents talked to us about sex. Both sets, having the same views, basically told us "It's bad to have sex before marriage. When we tell kids "No.
Kids, and young adults, want to know why. There is an ingrained curiosity in kids of all ages to know the who, what, where, when, and why of all things. Only when they know the reason behind the statement, will they consider adopting it as their own beliefs.
We literally set our children up for failure when we don't explain why we wait for marriage to have sex. Andy Stanley debunks this theory but, more importantly, he expands on it in continuing chapter. He comes up with a brilliant line that I am going to use on my girls: "Are you the person the person you're looking for is looking for?
I loved it!
What a concept! You need to be the kind of person that the kind of person you want will actually want. This is a life truth that needs to be taught more than it is. It would change lives if we managed to get our children to understand this concept before they left the house so that they could apply it to all aspects of their lives. Jobs, relationships, etc. Stanley really gets into the good stuff starting with Chapter 6 "The Gentleman's Club" where he talks about how to treat a woman.
This is left out of so many books, and young men are left to figure it out on their own. They adore women and expect them to be lifted up, respected, cherished and valued.
There is no chapter in this book about being a submissive wife, just reminders to men that Jesus consistently elevated the status of women while he was here and how men are expected to do the same. This is not talked about enough in relationship books and I applaud Andy Stanley for adding it. Stanley uses Chapter 7 "The Way Forward" to talk about porn.
He doesn't just talk about how bad it is and that it goes against God's plans, but he explains why it can harm you in the long run. And he suggests getting help for it before you start dating. Again, not another chapter with rules and no explanation, Stanley does a great job of breaking it down so that it makes sense to young minds.
He gets it! That makes so much sense! It is so perfect and exactly what I want my girls to understand before they leave my house. That's why I'm saving this book until my girls are old enough to read and discuss it.
Andy Stanley managed to put into black and white what parents have been struggling to say for decades, and he does it with such a great sense of humor. I laughed out loud several times while reading because of Stanley's sarcastic humor. I seriously can not recommend this book enough. Oct 23, Anino rated it it was amazing Shelves: romanceinspirationcommon-sense-wisdomrelationshipsinspirational-elementscoaching-mentoringcoaching-motivational-bookschristian-non-religiosity-type-app.
For those who really want to get married, listening to what this man has to say will really help you if you want to be helped.
I'd heard lots of buzz about Andy Stanley's The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating. So I downloaded the Kindle version and quickly read it. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating [Andy Stanley] on elt-communication.com *FREE * shipping on qualifying offers. “Are you the person the person you are looking. 13 quotes from The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating: 'Are you the person the person you're looking for is looking for?'.
A lot of times, we make it complicated because we close our eyes and ignore the blaring lights that attempt to warn us against stumbling blindly into one meaningless relationship after another. Andy Stanley definitely has the goods in regards to being able to relate to people, in a way that leaves one feeling hopeful, instead of ashamed and condemned.
Apr 08, Christine Baptiste rated it it was amazing. The book you need to read if you want to understand the value of abstaining from sex until marriage. It was written in a non preachy non judgemental way that makes you want to continuing reading even if you didn't agree at first. Mar 22, Veronica rated it it was amazing Shelves: romancebiblicallibrary-book-challengenon-fictionnew-author-to-you Every single, from teens and up, should read this book! Great advice; really makes you think about how you view relationships and finding the "right" person and what you're doing to become the right person.
Especially good for those just starting to date so they can stop mistakes before they make them, but it's never too late to start fresh! Apr 29, Stephanie rated it it was amazing. Amazing read! I will reference this book for a long time. Jan 30, Amariah Dixon rated it it was amazing. This book is informative and has sound info about dating. The advice Andy Stanley gives is very helpful. I highly recommend this book! Andy Stanley is also a good speaker.
Andy Stanley, in The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating emphasizes that instead of looking for the right person, you need to become the right. Andy Stanley. Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for? - Andy Stanley. Watch for Free Purchase DVD(s). The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating Q&A with Andy. In this episode, Andy is interviewed on the topics of love, sex, and dating.
View all 6 comments. Nov 11, Victoria Victoria's Reading Pantry rated it liked it Shelves: christianimprovementnon-fiction. OK here's the thing - Andy Stanley just really gets under my skin. Everything he talks about just seems to be him saying "What you know is wrong. You're wrong.
What I know is right. And I'm going to change your life by telling you this. As for this book - good stuff. Everyone can get at least something from it I'm sure. And the whole "becoming the rig OK here's the thing - Andy Stanley just really gets under my skin. And the whole "becoming the right person" is good advice, I'm just not sure the motivation for becoming a better person ought to be to find a spouse.
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating book. Read 84 reviews from the world's largest community for readers. 'Are you who the person you are looking for. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating. Andy Stanley. "Are you who the person you are looking for is looking for?"—AndyStanley. Single?.
As for me, well, I already held all of the beliefs expressed in this book. And to have everything presented as "you don't know about any of this, let me reveal to you the secrets of good relationships" just didn't fly with me, since I've grown up knowing all this.
That's not to say the ideas presented in this book are bad, like I said I already hold them. It's just the way they're presented seemed a little condescending. Do I recommend this book? There's some good stuff in it.
Do I think it'll drastically change your view of relationships? I can't say. It didn't for me, but then again I'm an oddity. Note: someone I respect gave me this book to read, and that's why I did. Jul 26, Josh Stowers rated it it was ok.
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A couple of positives: Really great wisdom for a De-christianized nation. Anyone that follows his advice will be relationally successful.
It strips its purpose by directing the only meaning of marriage as being temporally beneficial but not God glorifying. This is painfully obvious. Finally thoughts: I am not saying that Andy does not believe the things he does not mention. However he does not take this approach with churches. He suggest to find the biggest church in your area and it just has to be big for a good reason. Pragmatism will lead people to a form of godliness that not only denies his power but his deserved glory.
Feb 09, Brandi Peek rated it really liked it. I would really say that I would rate this a 4. It would have been great if someone had explained all the ideas and concepts to the early me in the way that Andy Stanley communicates it.
He does a good job of being blunt and straightforward about love and all the wrong choices we tend to make based on wrong thinking. I also think he communicates this in a I would really say that I would rate this a 4. The book can seem repetitive at times, but I think that is the point. I feel like his insight and advice reaches far beyond a romantic love.
It is relatable to all relationships. I would highly recommend this book. Obviously, the content is similar to the sermon series he does, but it expands areas that needed expanding. Stanley is very forthright and blunt which I found both helpful and intimidating. He does not sugar coat anything. He is a good communicator as is clear if you have listened to him speakhe uses language that is easy to understand - he is direct.
The others? They moved on to the next right person. Then they set off looking for the Right Person. They met someone they were physically attracted to, added sex to the relationship right away, and fell into a kind of neurochemical bliss that made them believe that not only had they never loved like this, no one in human history had.
But once they got married, they had a problem: all their marriage had going for it was chemistry. Neither the husband nor the wife knew anything about relationships. Soon enough, their relationship problems began causing chemistry problems. The sexual part of the marriage died, leaving both of them frustrated and confused.
Separation and divorce followed. No one wants to watch a movie about a happily married couple. Think about some popular movies, TV shows, and songs about romance. Which of the rules do you agree with?Staying in Love Group Bible Study by Andy Stanley
Which ones do you disagree with? You need to become the right person.